Best Pieces of Advice to my 18 year old self

Best Pieces of Advice I would give to my 18 year old self
After a short break The Blog Tag is back and they have kicked off with an insightful theme this week. Today’s post covers the topic: “Best advice to give someone”. This got me thinking about my life and the…

Best Pieces of Advice I would give to my 18 year old self

1. Learn to love yourself

Learning to love yourself and accepting your flaws is key to becoming a more confident person. If you’re aware of what your flaws are then you’re also able to manage them better. For example, patience is not my strongest virtue. Previously I would get extremely annoyed and irritated while standing in a queue. Whereas now, I now know that there’s no point as the queue will not move faster with my impatience.

2. Learn to accept that your body is not perfect

Unless you’re an athlete or exercise every day and stick to a strict diet then you might get or have the “perfect body”. Being short, having a “skew” nose (according to someone that told me) and not having a washboard flat stomach were my biggest body issues. Once I learnt that most people have average bodies, that it’s ok to be short and to not have a perfect body my body confidence improved immensely. Also learn to make the most of your features, learn about clothing colours that suit your skin tone and what clothing suits your body shape. These all contribute to an improved body image. It is more important to have good health than the perfect body. So exercise often and eat as healthily as possible.

3. Don’t set age expectations for life goals such as marriage, kids, buying a house etc

Often life does not turn out the way you expected it to. Having life goals is good but don’t expect that you have to have achieved them by a certain age and that you’re a failure if it doesn’t happen.

4. Always believe in yourself and that nothing is impossible

Believing in yourself is the first step to making your goals a reality. If your goal seems unreachable, come up with a plan so that you can tackle it in small steps. After all, where there’s a will, there’s a way. Or even better “If my mind can conceive it, my heart can believe it, I know I can achieve it!” – Jesse Jackson

5. Get rid of or reduce the negativity in your life

Stay away from drama and negativity. It’s draining and a waste of energy. Who needs it? Aim for the simple life.

6. Hold on to the friends that always have your best interests at heart

Keep the friends that can be happy for you when you’re happy and are sad for you when you’re sad. They will support you no matter what and they are the rocks that remain constant in your life. Fewer true friends are also better than having a lot of acquaintances. Unfortunately not all friendships are forever which is a really hard lesson to learn. Learn to accept that some friends come and go and they may only be in your life for a reason or a season.

7. Learn to get over it

Learning to accept a situation for what it is makes it a lot easier to deal with. Have your moan (or your cry but then wipe away your tears ) and accept it for what it is. There is no point in wasting energy on continuously rehashing a bad situation and wondering why.

8. Learn what makes you happy

Learning about gratitude and what makes you happy leads to living a happier life.

9. Learn to say no nicely

Stop pleasing everyone else. There are only so many hours in a day so learn to put yourself first and do the things that you are important to you.

10. Don’t be afraid to try or experience something new

New experiences and memories make for a more enriching life. Overcome your fears and just do it!

11. Learn to adapt to change

Change is also sometimes hard to accept. By learning to accept that change is a big part of life, you become adaptable, flexible and more resilient to future events.

12. Don’t compare yourself to others

Focus on your own life. Life is about more than material possessions, living in a fancy house, driving fancy cars or wearing expensive clothes. Also read “The Secret” where you will learn that there is enough in this world for everyone. This quote explains it well: “Comparison is the thief of joy” – Theodore Roosevelt

13. Stop worrying about what other people think

Be true to yourself. Live your life according to your own rules, values and morals. Accept that everyone has been brought up differently and what is normal to you might not be normal to another person. As long as you’re not hurting anyone and it doesn’t affect anyone else’s life then so be it.

14. Talk to your grandparents

Get to your know your grandparents and your family history. Ask them the questions you want to know before it’s too late to find out.

15. Give back to charity

It is important to give back. Take part in charity events, donate regularly, do it however you wish. But giving back to charity is also part of being grateful for what you have and being a happier person.

16. Be nice

As hard it can sometimes be in this harsh world that we live in, try to continue being a nice person and treat people equally.

17. Game of Thrones

Lastly and most importantly, when you watch Game of Thrones, don’t get attached to any of the characters!! 😉




  1. 20th October 2016 / 8:59 AM

    hahahah! that last point though haha laughing for days. that’s what makes the show so damn awesome. doesn’t matter how famous the character is, No One is safe. I love it.
    Brilliant post I agree with all the points especially 6, it took me a while after high school to realize that even my best friends all faded away… the ones that stayed & have been super supportive are the ones I never expected. Life is funny that way.

    Nice tie in with the blog tag theme, didn’t know you posted there. Great connecting with you.

    • whatudidntknow
      20th October 2016 / 9:01 AM

      Thank you! Lol, I thought it was an appropriate way to end a serious post in a more light hearted manner 😉 Great to connect with you again too!

  2. 20th October 2016 / 9:13 AM

    This is a lovely post. Learning to say no nicely and getting rid of negativity are major for me.

    • whatudidntknow
      20th October 2016 / 9:20 AM

      Thank you Stella!

  3. 20th October 2016 / 9:21 AM

    Hahaha love the last one! But I love the other tips, I wish I’d learnt to love myself sooner and stop worrying about what others think. I’m getting there though 🙂 Great post!

    • whatudidntknow
      20th October 2016 / 9:26 AM

      Thank you! At least you’re making progress already! 😉

  4. Sade Lee
    20th October 2016 / 9:55 AM

    Great post! I still have to tell my 24 year old self some of these! Haha. Especially #9. I’m going to share on my page 😊

    • whatudidntknow
      20th October 2016 / 10:01 AM

      Thank you! 🙂 Hahahaha, don’t worry. I think I only really started realising and learning a lot of these lessons from my late 20s onwards 🙂

    • whatudidntknow
      20th October 2016 / 10:02 AM

      And thank you for sharing!

  5. 20th October 2016 / 6:16 PM

    Number 9 is a constant battle for me! 17 is hilarious. Nice job on this piece! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • whatudidntknow
      20th October 2016 / 6:49 PM

      Thanks Christine! I actually also struggle with No 9 but I’ve gotten a lot better at it! 😉

  6. 21st October 2016 / 7:42 AM

    #12 #13 my fav. Such valuable rules to live by! Love i

    • whatudidntknow
      21st October 2016 / 7:52 AM

      Hi Samanthra! Glad you enjoyed reading it! 🙂

  7. 24th October 2016 / 5:07 AM

    Lovely post 🙂 I think I can tell those advice to myself, even now.

    • whatudidntknow
      24th October 2016 / 6:15 AM

      Thank you! 🙂

  8. 4th November 2016 / 6:42 AM

    7 & 8 is important to me — I love this post. Thank you

    • whatudidntknow
      4th November 2016 / 8:09 AM

      Thanks for reading Melissa!

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